Did you know that people without friends are more likely to die an early death?
To up your chances of living a long, happy life, having a bunch of fair-weather buddies won’t do the trick. You need a diverse, well-rounded entourage that will stick with you through thick and thin. The following eight types of friends are just what you need to keep the doctor away.
1. A Loyal Best Friend
Sometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane. Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what. This is the kind of friend who lets you be a hot mess and knows all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still loves you all the same.
2. A Fearless Adventurer
We live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people to meet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous friend who will pull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures, philosophies, and activities.
3. A Brutally Honest Confidant
There’s certain situations in life where we need to hear the harsh truth. That’s what the brutally honest confidant is for. If you’re in a rocky relationship and everyone’s telling you that it’s perfectly normal that you’re back with that special someone for the 8th time in the last 2 years, the brutally honest confidant is there to yank your rose-colored glasses off and tell you, “Enough. Stop with all that break-up-and-get-back-together drama. You deserve better.” Friends are supposed to be honest with each other. If you find someone who is brutally honest with you (in a constructive way), then hold on to this person! People like that are hard to come by these days.
4. A Wise Mentor
Jesse Jackson once said, “Never look down on someone unless you’re helping them up.” If you have someone smart, inspiring, and admirable in your life who practices this philosophy, you’re extremely lucky. We all need a friend who inspires us to be better people without making us feel inadequate. Plus, being around such a person will challenge us to better ourselves every day.
The wise mentor in your life doesn’t have to be someone who shares the same occupation or hobbies with you. It’s simply someone who’s a few steps ahead of you in life and has enough wisdom and patience to guide you in the right direction. It can be anyone — a colleague, a friend who’s beyond their years, or an older neighbor — as long as you look up to this person and want to be more like them.
5. A Friend From a Different Culture
The last thing you want to be described as is someone who’s stuck in their own ways. If everyone had a friend from a different culture, the world would be a much better place. Being in a cross-cultural friendship allows you to explore customs, values, and traditions outside of your own culture. Sometimes you might even adopt new ways to do things.
Be careful; don’t befriend someone just because they’re from a different culture. No one likes to be a token friend. Instead, keep your mind open, and if you come across someone you click with who just so happens to be from a different culture, make the effort to learn about their customs, values, and traditions while getting to know the person on a personal level.
6. A Polar Opposite
We humans are hard-wired to get together in groups and attack outsiders — the human pack mentality, if you will. If you only develop friendships with others who follow the same beliefs, customs, and values as you do, chances are you’re somewhat detached from the rest of the world, and you’re more likely to perpetuate stereotypes on anyone who holds a different world view from you.
Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.
7. A Friendly Neighbor
These days, a lot of people don’t know their own neighbors. It’s a shame, because some neighbors can be the nicest and most helpful people ever. If you’re on a vacation, and you suddenly realize that you forgot to lock the front door, you can call up your trusty ol’ neighbor and ask them to head over to your house and lock it for you. Nice dependable neighbors who have each other’s backs are a dying breed, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t introduce yourself to the new neighbors across the street!
8. A Work Pal
Did you know that with a full-time job, you spend at least 50% of your waking hours at work? Not only that, but you spend some more time commuting to work, thinking about work, working overtime, and furthering your career on your personal time. Depressing, isn’t it?
Statistics show that the more isolated you are at work, the more depressed you get. That’s why it makes sense to get a work pal to chat with at the water cooler and to help you get through the week. You spend 50% of your waking hours at work, and so does your work pal. You’ll find it much easier to shoot the breeze and complain about work with someone who can relate to you than eating lunch alone every day.
Your work pal doesn’t have to be your best friend outside of work. They just need to be someone you click with on some level, and if you two hit it off exceptionally well, you can always start hanging out with them outside of the office.
With a loyal best friend, a fearless adventurer, a brutally honest confidant, a wise mentor, a friend from a different culture, a polar opposite, a friendly neighbor, and a work pal in your life, you’re bound to live a long and happy life!
- This article originally appeared on the author’s blog.
“Do we still have a second chance? Naniniwala ka rin ba na (do you also believe)our love story deserves a better ending?” And with that, Ginny (portrayed by Toni Gonzaga) turns the world of her ex-boyfriend Marco (Piolo Pascual) askew in the box-office hit movie ‘Starting Over Again.’
This romantic film directed by Olivia Lamasan does not spare audiences from the depths of anguish, even if it is frighteningly painful. Many people accept the fact that perfect endings are hard to come by. I would have stormed out of the theater had this film chosen a different ending.
Why do many people relate so personally to the film? Let me count the ways:
1. It’s not always love at first sight. Sometimes, it’s love after irritation.
How many times have you found someone annoying, even obnoxious, only to fall crazy in love with that person? Indeed, thin is the line between love and hate. It’s just like Marco who admits in his email to Ginny that he disliked her initially.
Sometimes, irritation is just a defense mechanism. Often we are attracted to someone who mirrors our own qualities, the good and bad. We can’t help it. It’s part of our narcissistic nature. And sometimes, if we’re lucky, the person we detested but have fallen for turns out to be a great person beneath the hard surface.
2. Everything is perfect, until fear sets in and you run away.
Things were going rosy for Marco and Ginny. They started making plans for a lifetime of togetherness, until familiarity set in. Ginny saw too much of her failure-of-a-father in Marco that she had to escape. As a friend once said, many would rather go for the easy way out, rather than the uncertainty of hard choices but with the potential to makes us truly happy.
When things fail, we beat ourselves up and realize how cowardly we were. Toni was brilliant in her breakdown-in-bed scene.
3. When you miss someone you love, every little thing can be a reminder of that person.
The smallest thing can trigger the deepest memories with that person: a scent, a word, a place, a time of day, a season, a food or drink, a color, a sound, a laugh, a smile, a gaze, a look.
Ginny learned from Marco that tastes and flavors of food evoke sensual memories of a person. For Marco, a picture, a sketch on a paper that’s yellowing with age can open the floodgates of memories.
4. Dealing with a break-up is indeed like grieving over the loss of a loved one.
When you break-up with a partner, the void is palpable, like a gaping hole in the heart. “I almost died,” Marco cried out to Ginny in their confrontation scene. And no matter how hard you try, no matter how much love and support you get from family and friends, no matter how hard you count your blessings, nothing can seem to fill that empty space.
And you do go through the stages of grief, albeit unconsciously: denial, anger, depression, and if all proceeds well, you reach acceptance. But before you reach acceptance…
5. You will bargain, plead, even settle for scraps, just to reclaim that person and win him/her back into your life.
What an amazing kitchen confrontation scene between Ginny and Patty. My eyes almost popped out of their sockets and my ears couldn’t believe what they were hearing as Ginny tried to mess with Patty’s mind, break her confidence in Marco and eventually drive her to give Marco up.
Many people have those embarrassing moments when pride goes flying out the window, and you sink to the lowest depths to get your ex to love you again. It doesn’t always work out, but somehow, you think it’s better to do it and fail, than wonder what could have been and have regrets later on.
6. Just when you think you’ve moved on, life plays a trick on you.
There’s a chance encounter; a text, call or email out of the blue. Often, this tests your resolve and you start seeing signs (or signs you want to see): Why did we have to meet each other again? Maybe we’re meant to get back together…
Ginny asked herself that question over and over again. You convince yourself that you’ve gotten over a person, but seeing him/her with someone else makes your chest feel like it’s going to explode.
You pretend you’re cool, but you’re a ball of nerves when you see each other again. You dress your best, you try to look more gorgeous and successful to make the other person regret breaking-up with you, but secretly you want him/her back. You just have to test the water if there’s still spark or magic between you two.
7. You’ll know when it’s time to give up, lick your wounds and move on.
Often you just want closure, for not everyone can deal with open-ended questions and unfinished business. Ginny and Marco had the benefit of closure. What a bittersweet hospital scene that was.
But not everyone is as fortunate as to have that opportunity to settle score. What to do? When do you stop trying and finally let go? You realize eventually that you set your own limits. You’ll know when you’ve given as much as you could, and tried as hard as you can.
When you’ve done all you could, hopefully you can pick up the pieces, get back on your feet, cherish the good memories, look back without regrets, and gaze into the future, if not with hope, then at least with the knowledge that you will soon be okay.
You will eventually learn to love yourself, and be your own best friend. If you’re lucky, you’ll meet someone special again.
- This article originally appeared on the author’s blog.
Every year, pop song lovers look for a mash-up that can really thrill there pop song spirits. In my case, the first mash-up song I’ve heard is from Daniel Kim. He is calling his mash-up as "Pop Danthology", meaning, an anthology of various creative works arranged by Daniel Kim. Next, I have DJ Earworm, where he call his works as “United State of Pop” and Robin Skouteris as "Pop Love".
Last year 2013, they released their annual mash-up. Daniel Kim is the first one who release his mash-up followed by DJ Earworm then Robin Skouteris.
Who got the best mash-up this year?
Drum roll please… In my personal opinion, Daniel Kim got the spot again. His work is so flawless. The mixing of the songs and the timing is so perfect, even the lyrics. Try to listen to his Pop Danthology 2013, and know why and what I am talking about…
Pop Danthology 2013 by Daniel Kim
You can visit Daniel Kim’s Website on how he created this epic mash-up of 2013. And you can listen to his previous years’ works.
Here’s the Mash-up made by DJ Earworm and Robin Skouteris work
United State of Pop 2013 by DJ Earworm
Pop Love 2 (2013) by Robin Skouteris
All of them did a great job! Mixing different songs is not that easy. It needs time and skills to come up such mash-up like what these three guys did. They dominate the mash-up scene. Clap! Clap! for them. There are lots of people doing mash-up. Just browse the web you can see and listen to their works.
Let’s wait for 2014’s mash-up. Who’s gonna take the spot?
MASH-UP /n./ A song comprised of elements of two or more pre-existing pieces of music.
I’m contented being an average guy.
This year has been a great year for me. I remember when 2013 just started I said to myself, “It’s gonna be my year.” I claimed it from day 1 of 2013. Life goes so fast, so many things happened and it’s a life changing year for me because, I got my first ever job and started to live in what they called, “Reality World”. It all started last April 2013. Getting the requirements, passing the exams etc.. And it’s all worth it. As everybody says, “Work hard and everything will follow”. As what I always think of.. “Don’t just talk about your dream…make it a reality.” We’re the one who’s responsible for what path in life we are going to take. Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.
Having a job and earning my own money are just two of the highlights of my year. It’s a blessing in disguise as one of my friends said to me. And because of these, I became more responsible and disciplined in life. Thanks to my experiences. I know this is just the beginning of facing the reality of life.
In connection to this, I really want to thank all those people who’ve been part of this journey from start to present. You all know who are. I’ve learned so much things from you guys, the first group of people I’ve met and knew in the industry. Of course, it does not stop there, I’m still on the process of learning things from all of you and the people around. Cheers!
Met a lot of people this year, different people from different groups. Some contributes for what I’ve became this year. It’s part of life that we’ll realize that there is a purpose for every person we meet. Some will teach us, and some will bring out the best in us. Never stop meeting new people. Let go all the bad things that happened last year. Never live in the past but always learn from it. In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.
Plans for 2014? I got so many plans on my 2014 bucket list. I hope I can reach all those things. haha!
Career? Love? Luck? Future? Not possible if I made my 2013 an awesome year.
Live more, complain less. More smiles, less stress. Less hate, more blessed.
Rules of Happiness,. Don’t Hate. Don’t Worry. Give More. Expect Less. Live Simply.
- Adriell Calip, 2014
"GORILLA" music video - One of my favorite songs from Unorthodox Jukebox album of Bruno Mars
Bruno Mars gets hot and heavy in the thrilling video for “Gorilla,” the fourth single off his sophomore album Unorthodox Jukebox. The Hawaiian heartthrob plays an entertainer at La Jungla gentlemen’s club, while Slumdog Millionaire actress Freida Pinto stars as the club’s newest showgirl.